The story: A private swim club kicks out a day care group possibly because of overcrowding, possibly because of racism. Media fire storm brews. Said private swim club reinvites day care group. Day care group refuses saying “children are scarred” and “The children’s best interests are not being served.” Day care intends to sue within a couple of days.
Look, I know racism still exists in this country and that if the charges of racism are true, something should be done about it. However, saying the children are scarred and refusing the olive branch regardless of whether you think it was coerced or offered honestly only serves to teach children that when conflict arise it is best to batten down the hatches and start fighting instead of trying to resolve things like, well, like humans. That action is what will actually scar the children by showing them how their role-models go about dealing with a difficult situation.
In this case, the charges of racism don’t ring particularly true. At least two other day cares had their invitations renounced. If the club was worried about minorities, don’t you think they would have investigated a little before extending an invitation to a largely minority day care? This sounds to me like a swim club that invited too many people to use its facilities and then got some blowback from the members who pay to have a nice private club. It does not sound like a racially motivated situation.
The lawyer for the day care had this to say about suing the club and demanding the resignation of all board members: “Our goal is to ensure that this type of behavior never happens again,” she said. Be careful what you ask for there. You’re liable to get it but just not in a way you expected. If clubs are worried about how their actions might get played in our 24 hour news cycle, they just won’t invite you. At all. That certainly doesn’t serve the kids well either.
There is much work to be done in regards to race relations in this country but refusing to solve things amicably in a case that easily could be identified as confusion will never help. We are teaching our children that when someone spites you, go out of your way to make their life miserable. Not a particularly instructive way to do things.